November 13, 2013

Psycho cyber stalkers

Luckily, my dating life was over long before the internet became a commonplace vehicle for meeting potential love interests.  While I have made great friends via the miracle of modern technology, I still have reservations about internet dating, having seen the consequences of a friend's failed attempts.

Case in point, this story out of New York:
A Manhattan architect has filed a $1.25 million defamation lawsuit against his ex-lover for trashing his reputation by making Web posts claiming he is a sex addict with a “tiny STD-infested weiner” who “sleeps with anything that moves,” according to court papers.

John B. Wender, 53, who is a principal at Bartolone Wender Architects located at 350 Seventh Ave., says he met Louise Silberling “over the Internet” in March 2011.

They saw each other in person only three times and broke up in March 2012, the Manhattanville resident says in his Manhattan Supreme Court suit.

Searching Wender’s name on Google returns more than a dozen hits on scathing blogs, on the social-networking site Tumblr, on professional review sites, and at the site, all allegedly authored by Silberling.

The various postings accuse the Manhattan professional of having a “seedy BDSM lifestyle,” and of having sexual proclivities including “daddy/daughter scenarios . . . over-the-knee role playing . . . rape play . . . forced orgasm, spanking, whipping, paddling, flogging, gagging, strap-on-play, wax play, and auto-erotic asphyxia and strangulation,” according to court papers.

Silberling even allegedly posted fake reviews on professional Web sites, attacking her ex’s architectural work with such critiques as, “Every word that comes out of John Wender’s ugly mouth is a lie.”

Wender’s ex-wife and disabled son also did not escape attack, according to the suit. Silberling allegedly created blogs in their names with their photos attached — calling the wife a witch and the 13-year-old son “retard [and] ugly.”

All told, 32 Web postings are attached as exhibits to the Manhattan civil suit.
This pair only saw each other in person three times, meaning the rest of their year-long 'relationship' played out over the internet or telephone.  I don't know about you, but I think there is something to be said for the need for face-to-face interaction, if for no other reason than being able to judge the character of a person.  Maybe if Wender had gone to dinner and a couple of movies with this woman, he would have known that she was a few sandwiches short of a picnic before he got in so deep that she trashed him, his family and his professional reputation all over the internet.

Clearly, this woman is a psycho bitch from hell.  I am not one for lawsuits, but, assuming that she is responsible for these website postings, I hope she spends the rest of her life paying off that $1.25 million that he is suing for.

You don't drag someone's family, much less a disabled child, into your dating spat.  And, the best relationship advice I could ever give would be this; if someone breaks up with you, it is because they don't want to be with you, so Move On.  No amount of stalking, begging, insulting or threatening is going to make someone change their mind. 

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